WHY VIRGINITY BEFORE MARRIAGE WINS?

“Lies, Lies, Lies, It cannot be the truth...” “Are you for real...Do you want to tell me that you’ve never...” These are basically some of the responses that I get when I tell someone that I am still a virgin. It appears to be a response that is very scarce in the speech of young unmarried people in the current generation. To tell someone you’ve not had sex with anyone and you’ll wait till to have it with your spouse seems more or less like an insult rather than something that would attract compliments and flatters.

In my previous article “Everyone wants a piece”, I highlighted the fact that most young unmarried people desire to have sex as at now and are unwilling to wait till marriage. It seems to be the fashion, the in-thing. If you’ve not done it then you tend to qualify in the category of outcasts among your peers. It seems that there’s a wide and unseen banner displaying “True Love doesn’t wait after all”.

And basically that’s where I’ve been put “an outcast” because I’ve not engaged in something that automatically qualify me. 

And you know, one of the questions that they proceed to ask me is “Don’t you ever feel like having sex at any moment as a man?” or they would pop a question like “You mean your girlfriend has never asked you to engage in it?” 

Well folks, sex seem to the sweetest thing that God ever created and the feelings and desires that God created us with indicate that it is something to yearn for. And do I desire to have sex? Honestly, yes people, as a man with hormones et al, it’s something that I always crave for. But then why is it up to now in my mid – twenties, it happens that I have not had sex with anyone at all and that I am still a virgin? 

Is it because I am not interested? Or could it because I am just pathetic in tuning up a girl? Or maybe it is that I’ve never had the chance of being in an environment that would allow me to engage in it? Or can we say is it could be because God has plainly created me perfectly with supernatural abilities to kill off my desires that rise up the moment a lady tunes me up? 

I can confidently tell you it is neither of the above people. I can tune up a lady, am not that feeble. And I have had the chance too and God created me with just like any other human being with feelings and I still sin. But without further ado people, let me explain why I have chosen to remain a virgin till I get married.

Honestly, one of the main reasons is because “I am just scared”. Yes, don’t you even dare think that I am that cowardice. Despite of the very many negative consequences that come with sex before marriage, I am just scared of this one. I will have sinned against God. It’s basically a Sexual Sin. And we all know that Sin separates us from God. God has instructed us clearly in the Bible that we should flee from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18 – 20), on this case it is fornication. Fornication in the modern dictionary is defined as voluntary sexual intercourse between two an unmarried people. 

When I decide to sleep with an unmarried lady, I will not only have committed fornication, but in reality I will have also committed adultery. Yes people, adultery in the sense that I am sleeping with someone else' wife. Dating is NOT marriage people. And since we’re not married and we’re not sure yet if we’ll even marry, it simply pertains to someone else' future wife. Yet God created Sex solely for use in a marriage setting because having sex results in soul – ties. Soul – ties are basically linkages in the soul realm between two people. It could be negative or positive, but in a marriage setting it positive in that, its purpose is to build  healthy, strong and close relationship between a man and woman. (Read Matthew 19:5 “For this cause shall a man...”)

If I sleep with a lady who isn’t my wife, it results in sin people. I will end up ruining the relationship that I have with Christ. And this not just an insult to God but also  despise for the fact that he has already given me warnings, directions and even guidelines on how to conduct myself. He’s like “I don’t tempt people, but even then when temptation comes your way, I’ll still provide a way out” (1 Cor 10:13).

God has been more than gracious to grant me the gift of life, protection, providence and even He’s been merciful to forgive me of my sins. How do I just knowingly start sinning after what He has done?  Don’t you think it’s more a like a slap on His Face? Yes people, it is more than that. 

I will wait till then and only till then I am in a holy matrimony to have sex with my female wife. And it is because I just don’t want to Sin and grieve God. I want to be righteous and holy before Him as I allow Him to work on me and when the right time comes then, I’ll proceed with the necessary.

Now you know!!!