EVERYONE WANTS SE$$$!!! REALLY???

“I am virgin”, I’ll wait till marriage for me to sleep with anyone”, and many other phrases that people say. Do you know how rare it is for you to hear these words come out from the mouth of a teenager or a young unmarried adult? Yes it is. Just try mentioning these words in front of other people and you might be the laughing stock of the day. This is because Sex has been the current trend in all sorts of ways be it the most synonymous of vocabularies, photos or even videos.  Sex has been become the new “Swag” so to say. Everyone is having sex with everyone in the name of Love. Everyone wants a Piece of the "Cake". No one is seeing the problem of having Sex before marriage which is supposed to be the intended context. 

Sex is now the symbol being used to showcase our Love towards our so called boyfriends and girlfriends. The Saddest part of all this is that, it’s not a big deal to find two teenage Lovebirds sleeping around in the name of love. I work with teenagers and from a factual point most of them get to sleep around by the time they’re 14 years old and others as early as 12. I have had chat with a teenager who has confessed to have already slept with 7 guys at the age of 15. Apparently most of them know its wrong but they still engage in it to prove to the other partner how in Love they’re with them. 

You see folks, the one thing the devil has been able to succeed in one of the very many millions of lies that he harbours is that sex is equated with “Making Love”. This is so especially by the soap operas that fills our TV stations. In such soaps, Love is always confirmed by having sex. Sex is now losing its real meaning and real purpose. It’s no longer Sacred the way it was created to be. Love and Sex are two different things, there can be Love without Sex and there can be Sex without Love.

I just don’t believe that when you’re in a relationship, you have to sleep with your so called “Love” to cement your relationship to give it a meaning. You see, I was in a relationship where the other partner saw no big deal in having sex even as Christians, despite the fact that I told her that I decided to wait till when the holy matrimony allows me.

On top of that, her friends used to get shocked when she told them that we don’t engage in such. In fact one friend asked her “how do you survive without it?” And I keep asking myself if Sex is water that one has to have it or else die. (For those in marriage, it’s part of it). This shows you the extent of the situation. It’s just as casual as it is, now that it’s becoming a must for everyone to have it whether you’re in a relationship or not. 

But I still believe we have remnants, those “Old Fashioned”, “Old School” like me who still believe that Sex was created and should be preserved for a marriage setting. I go to the extent to believe that French kissing and acts such as caressing should also be preserved for the holy matrimony. I even believe that if your girlfriend or boyfriend keeps suggesting or pressuring you to have sex or engage in such, you should discontinue the relationship for the sake of your future. It’s not hard but very possible. (Ask me)

This is because such sexual acts are progressive, meaning one leads to another. Kissing leads you to desire to do something more. Your body will want to go onto the next step, and eventually lead to Sex.

The main reason why am writing this piece is that sex outside marriage is a sin. I believe that it is only your marriage partner who is the only person who will need to ever know you in those most intimate of ways. I believe that God has made marriage like that as an illustration of the special, exclusive relationship which He has with his people. (Heb 13:4)

This helps us more to even think more about Kissing, Caressing, Petting and all those sexual acts that you might be thinking.  You need to think about it in light of the fact that you might one day be married.  Although you can’t be sure you’ll end up married, there’s a pretty good chance that you will.  What’s more, there’s at least a possibility that you won’t be married to your current girlfriend according to a Harris Interactive Online Survey.

Fast forward all that in your mind to the time when you are married. God wants and (I also know you will want) your marriage relationship to be as special as it can be.  So the less you do now physically with your girlfriend or boyfriend, I believe the more special your marriage relationship will be. Although I am not married I know that it will also make it easier for you to be satisfied with your wife if you don’t have other experiences to compare her with.

As you keep watching Samantha Bridal, Wedding shows and even attending other people’s weddings, one can’t get enough of being marveled at the spectacle of the exquisiteness during the wedding, and people are always left in awe knowing very well and even believing that these two lovebirds will live happily ever after.

Everyone wants that, to have such, a good marriage life full of Joy, happiness and Peace. I want that too. But in order to enjoy that future, then I need to sacrifice and work out my present. I need to make some radical decisions and design some concrete principles that will stand the test of time even if I become the laughing stock of the school, work, estate or even church. 

One person who does not fail in helping one to craft all these principles and decisions is other than God.
He says in 1 Peter 5:10 And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. (NIV)

Stay Blessed.