EVERYONE WANTS SE$$$!!! REALLY???

“I am virgin”, I’ll wait till marriage for me to sleep with anyone”, and many other phrases that people say. Do you know how rare it is for you to hear these words come out from the mouth of a teenager or a young unmarried adult? Yes it is. Just try mentioning these words in front of other people and you might be the laughing stock of the day. This is because Sex has been the current trend in all sorts of ways be it the most synonymous of vocabularies, photos or even videos.  Sex has been become the new “Swag” so to say. Everyone is having sex with everyone in the name of Love. Everyone wants a Piece of the "Cake". No one is seeing the problem of having Sex before marriage which is supposed to be the intended context. 

Sex is now the symbol being used to showcase our Love towards our so called boyfriends and girlfriends. The Saddest part of all this is that, it’s not a big deal to find two teenage Lovebirds sleeping around in the name of love. I work with teenagers and from a factual point most of them get to sleep around by the time they’re 14 years old and others as early as 12. I have had chat with a teenager who has confessed to have already slept with 7 guys at the age of 15. Apparently most of them know its wrong but they still engage in it to prove to the other partner how in Love they’re with them. 

You see folks, the one thing the devil has been able to succeed in one of the very many millions of lies that he harbours is that sex is equated with “Making Love”. This is so especially by the soap operas that fills our TV stations. In such soaps, Love is always confirmed by having sex. Sex is now losing its real meaning and real purpose. It’s no longer Sacred the way it was created to be. Love and Sex are two different things, there can be Love without Sex and there can be Sex without Love.

I just don’t believe that when you’re in a relationship, you have to sleep with your so called “Love” to cement your relationship to give it a meaning. You see, I was in a relationship where the other partner saw no big deal in having sex even as Christians, despite the fact that I told her that I decided to wait till when the holy matrimony allows me.

On top of that, her friends used to get shocked when she told them that we don’t engage in such. In fact one friend asked her “how do you survive without it?” And I keep asking myself if Sex is water that one has to have it or else die. (For those in marriage, it’s part of it). This shows you the extent of the situation. It’s just as casual as it is, now that it’s becoming a must for everyone to have it whether you’re in a relationship or not. 

But I still believe we have remnants, those “Old Fashioned”, “Old School” like me who still believe that Sex was created and should be preserved for a marriage setting. I go to the extent to believe that French kissing and acts such as caressing should also be preserved for the holy matrimony. I even believe that if your girlfriend or boyfriend keeps suggesting or pressuring you to have sex or engage in such, you should discontinue the relationship for the sake of your future. It’s not hard but very possible. (Ask me)

This is because such sexual acts are progressive, meaning one leads to another. Kissing leads you to desire to do something more. Your body will want to go onto the next step, and eventually lead to Sex.

The main reason why am writing this piece is that sex outside marriage is a sin. I believe that it is only your marriage partner who is the only person who will need to ever know you in those most intimate of ways. I believe that God has made marriage like that as an illustration of the special, exclusive relationship which He has with his people. (Heb 13:4)

This helps us more to even think more about Kissing, Caressing, Petting and all those sexual acts that you might be thinking.  You need to think about it in light of the fact that you might one day be married.  Although you can’t be sure you’ll end up married, there’s a pretty good chance that you will.  What’s more, there’s at least a possibility that you won’t be married to your current girlfriend according to a Harris Interactive Online Survey.

Fast forward all that in your mind to the time when you are married. God wants and (I also know you will want) your marriage relationship to be as special as it can be.  So the less you do now physically with your girlfriend or boyfriend, I believe the more special your marriage relationship will be. Although I am not married I know that it will also make it easier for you to be satisfied with your wife if you don’t have other experiences to compare her with.

As you keep watching Samantha Bridal, Wedding shows and even attending other people’s weddings, one can’t get enough of being marveled at the spectacle of the exquisiteness during the wedding, and people are always left in awe knowing very well and even believing that these two lovebirds will live happily ever after.

Everyone wants that, to have such, a good marriage life full of Joy, happiness and Peace. I want that too. But in order to enjoy that future, then I need to sacrifice and work out my present. I need to make some radical decisions and design some concrete principles that will stand the test of time even if I become the laughing stock of the school, work, estate or even church. 

One person who does not fail in helping one to craft all these principles and decisions is other than God.
He says in 1 Peter 5:10 And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. (NIV)

Stay Blessed.

THE UNIQUE U.S HISTORY KENYA CAN DIGEST

One of the over 150 different U.S tribe was one called Navajo. The NAVAJO of the South Western United States are the largest federally recognized tribe of the United States of America with 300,048 enrolled tribal members. The Navajo Nation constitutes an independent government, which manages the Navajo Indian reservation in the four corner areas of the United States. The Navajo language is spoken throughout the region with the most capable of speaking as well.

Now, during the World War II, the Navajo were used in every assault that the US made on the Pacific from 1942 – “45 and they served in all six Marine divisions, Marine Raider battalions and Marine parachute units, transmitting messages by telephone and radio. This was because the U.S used the Navajo language to convey high security messages during the war which was impossible for the Japanese who are highly skilled code breakers to break & decipher.

You see the Navajo language consisted of an unwritten language of extreme complexity. Its syntax and tonal qualities, not to mention dialects, make it unintelligible to anyone without extensive exposure and training. It has no alphabet or symbols, and is spoken only on the Navajo lands of the American Southwest. One estimate indicates that less than 30 non-Navajos, none of them Japanese, could understand the language at the outbreak of World War II.

The U.S used the uniqueness of the Navajo language to its advantage in World War II. Rather than encrypting radio messages, it proved simpler to use Navajos to speak to each other in their everyday language to convey high-security messages & it worked. And unlike with machine codes, the Japanese were never able to break the Navajo code. This skill, creativity and uniqueness helped to save both American lives and marine engagements. And remember that U.S was the one country that made a halt to the World War II after the atomic bomb was dropped in the Japanese Islands of Hiroshima and Nagasaki. This partly led to it now becoming the World’s most powerful nation.

In Kenya we have more than 42 unique tribes. Each tribe in Kenya has their own distinctive social and economical cultural engagements that make them very distinct.

How do we take advantage of all these tribes to develop Kenya and make it a Social, Economical and Powerful power house in Africa instead of taking refuge in our ethnic & tribal cocoons by fighting each other and thinking that our tribes are superior to other People’s tribes?

Please decode that Question for yourself?

WHO IS VAL? :RE_INTRO

Everyone asks me the above the Question. And most of the times, I have realized that most of the answers that they get are presuppositions based on what they’ve been earlier told or an observation they’ve made probably on a onetime experience with me. It happens that Less than 10% of what they say about me is true or “near” truth. And this has led to misunderstandings & misapprehension of the Real Val. 

In view of this, I have decided to scribe a short write up that would seek to reveal to you an idea of who Val is; the creation of our Heavenly Father who carefully and perfectly knitted and wired every part of his body, mind and soul to become who he is now.

I am an ambitious and passion driven person who aggressively pushes himself to accomplish a given mission. Considering that I am task – oriented person, I do this with vigor, energy and aggression. When it comes to work, I usually dominate other people not for the wrong reasons but when I want it done and done on time. In that case I am straightforward, frank, self-sufficient, creative, critical, and no-nonsense individual with zeal and drive. When it comes to people, I am a relational person who gets social and familiar but still approaches with caution maintaining easiness. I approach links with honesty, straightforward and openness and that has sometimes gotten me in trouble with friends for being too bare with facts. To make it clear, I don’t relate to please other people. It’s either you like me or not, accept me or not.

I have been called a Proud Person, others have said that am Cocky, other have even said that am full of myself. I don’t think so, am just one person who believes in self –confidence and cultivation of a positive self – esteem culture in my life. I don’t shy away from displaying my successes and failures. You learn a lot from them. Am not a laid-back person; I see and take action immediately and that makes me a proactive character. (Go - Getter). Considering that I am on this earth for a season but for a reason, I usually give my all in everything that I do and for that matter, I don’t entertain excuses, laziness, time wastage and under-performers. My Motto is “Go hard or Go Home.”  If you don’t do it, I’ll do it myself.

All these make up part of my personality, something that I was born with and cannot change. As a result of that I remain mostly unapologetic about who Val is. 

Despite all that, am not faultless. I am an imperfect person created by a perfect Creator who is perfectly working in my Life to make me the best of what He wants me to be. I Leave God to define me and stamp His identity in me.

Who is Val? -----> A Nobody, Here to tell Everybody, About Somebody, Who can save anybody...#A Slave of the Lord Jesus Christ...#...!!!

(This is not an exhaustion of who Val is, as I said in the beginning, it’s just a of snippet who Val is. You can use this to help you create a snippet of who you are)

 

THE MOST LOVING AND PASSIONATE LOVE LETTER FROM GOD

Dear Child, 

I am writing this letter in response to the letter that Satan wrote you the other day.

First and foremost you may not know me but I call you my child, I know everything about you; before you were born. In fact I engineered your being when you were in your mother’s womb and I knew the exact time and place where you are going to be born, I know what you think, the hairs on your head and everything that concerns you and this is because I Love you so much. 
The thoughts that I have for you are uncountable like the sand of the seashore. What about the plans that I have for you? They are just prosperous and they will give you a hope and a future.

I know sometimes you misrepresent me among your peers, On Monday I saw you getting to work late and lied about it, On Tuesday I noticed that you woke up in morning and rushed to your normal day to day business without giving me the gratitude. OH! On Wednesday as you were getting to back home you showered the conductor with lots and lots of curses because of giving you less change. You then decided to sum up your week by going to your usual club on Friday, got high and did things that I wouldn’t want to remind you.

But then, should I still tell you that I Love you so much. Despite all that, I am not far and mad but am still going to express my Love to you in every way I can. I will still lavish my Love upon your life; I will take care of you as a shepherd takes care of his flock. I will not deter the plans I have for you, I will shield you when your enemies come, when those temptations come your way, I will also provide a way out. When you are in need I will be your Provider, you will not lack anything because I hold you close to my heart. When you heart is at War, I’ll instill Peace in you and grant you the Joy. I really Love you with an everlasting and unfailing Love and I will never stop doing good to you.

My desire is to establish you with all my Heart and Soul and show you great and mighty things that will change your life. I desire to do more for you if you only abide in me. I don’t count or hold anything against you because I sent my only precious and passionate Son Jesus Christ to die for you, so that I may be reconciled to you and that you may be saved and enjoy the goodness and fullness in me. His death was the ultimate expression of my Love to you; I gave you what I valued so that I may have you. You seek me with all your heart and you will find me and I will give the desires of your heart. Delight in me and I will delight in you. When you are broken - heart, I will be next to you. I really Love you so much and I would want you to accept me in your life.

Lastly my child, one day I’ll wipe all the tears in your eyes, no more death on your way, no mourning and no pain, you will sit beside me and I will throw you the biggest Party ever. I really can’t write everything now, but this letter is just a sample of the 66 Love letters that I have designed for you i.e. The Bible. 

My Questions is: Will You Accept Me?

Yours Sincerely


Loving God

MY FIRST EVER DATE !!!

THE GENESIS

“You do dance well, I liked it…..” that was the statement that I heard when I was chucking off stage after performing a very splendid ragga and hip hop dance. The year was 2008 and I had joined a dance group in church and we were just trying to find our footing within the dance industry. Our group was called ICED (In Christ Ever Dancers). 

When I cleared high school, I had started attending CITAM (Formerly known as NPC). And this happed so when I found out that my mum had paid a camp for me and I was supposed to attend it in December 2007. Seriously… the last time I stepped into a church before that day was …eeehhh ... mhmhmhm … aha!!! …. I can’t even remember. Anyway I did go for the camp which was going on for one full week. And it was during the camp that I discovered that I can actually dance. You know, it actually dawned on me that I never had two left feet subsequent to my earlier beliefs that I had. By the way I think everyone can dance, it just depends on what you’re dancing with i.e. Legs, head, hands or even the whole body. He he he!!! And at that time I used to dance to Crunk and Hip hop music. So after the camp, I decided to join ICED Dance crew in 2007 to develop my dancing skills and probably showcase them. By the way, did I just tell you that I was a crowd puller during my solo acts on the stage? Aha …!!!  Trust me, people used to cheer and applaud me while on it, especially girls (just to stress the point). Which dude wouldn’t want that really? C’mon, at that age? I was no exception and I used to like that.

THE ENCOUNTER 

Anyway flash forward to 2008 in a youth week event in our church. After we had done our act on the stage and there were cheers all over the place and I even heard people calling my name like “Val….Val….Val….” I felt being like I was on top of the world. Feeling of greatness was inside me.

But wait; amid all those cheers, there was only one voice and one statement that caught my attention. And now this was the statement “You do dance well, I liked it…..” It was a sleek, smooth and soft voice. I immediately turn on my back to check what or who was that and I was stunned by what was in front of me. It was the kind of picturesque that could make tongues wag & wiggle (and probably remain like that forever). 

Beauty, Charm and fascination stood in front of me and as a result of that, I was sent into a world of imaginations for like 30 seconds trying to swallow what was in front of view. A young lady who was probably 19 or 20 stood in front of me with her eyes right on mine. Goodness….!!! Her beauty was almost melting my heart away and at one moment I felt that my life was at a standstill. 

I usually don’t waste a lot of time when I get myself in such situations, you see, this was an opportunity that had brought itself into my hands and there was no way I could throw it away.(talk of an opportunistic). So I stretched my hand to greet her while at the same time thanking her for the compliment. I proceeded to ask her name. Aha!!! She was called *Joy*. (♪♪♫ Joy to the world the Lord is coming……♪♪ ♪).  (by the way, all this time, everything outside the two of us was moving forward, the event was going on, it was only me and her who were still in that “coma’ like situation).

 

With no words to express ourselves, we decided to part ways; she went back to her sit and I went outside to get some fresh air. All this time I was just thinking about her and the whole encounter thing.

I was just making strategies on how I’ll approach her and probably get to chat with her and see what was in for me. 

When the event ended and people were now coming out, I was busy arranging and rearranging words in my mind. One thing that was hot on me was getting her phone number. Now guys, this will help for future communication especially when she says that she’s in a hurry (A lady will use that statement if she’s avoiding you). Getting her digits was just major in my mind. Then there she came out. Goodness …!!! I was seriously sweating and my heart was running 3 digits Km/hr. 

“Do you remember me? I was that dude who you…..blah… blah…blah…”  Who approaches a lady like that??? …I should have started with something like “Hey miss, how are you faring….?” That would even make some sense and sound cool. Anyway don’t blame me; you have to first understand what I was going through (mental & emotional athletics – a case of a running heart and mind). We actually got into a conversation and I kept it well going. I felt like a king in front of 3000 men ready to battle. 

Sensing that she was about to leave, I proceeded in to put up that complex yet easy request. “Would you mind giving me your digits?”  And you can imagine what the response was; she replied in a soft voice and eloquent Voice saying “No!” I tried to convince her to give me her digits but all this ended up in vain. And she did bid me bye as she walked away with her cousin. Mind you, I have never seen this lady and this could be the last time to see her. So the only thing is to accept that she’s gone and move on with life.

And so it happened that I decided to “Accept and move on.” 

A week later as I was coming out of the dance practice session, I met her cousin just outside the gate waiting for me. I just decided to say hi to her (you know those that you give with raised eyebrows) and kept walking only to be stopped by her hand. So stunned I was. Being the kind person I am (Just saying), I decided to attend to her. And this was the message that she flashed on my face. “Joy said that I give you her phone number…..”  Trust me, this got me by surprise for the fact that I had moved on. As I decided to move on, there was some good feeling in my heart because it seemed that the lady went to think about my request and she gave in. As I said and I’ll say it again, I don’t waste time with such matters. So I proceeded to call her. We kept calling each other for one week till we decided to meet. In short we decided to have a Date…!!! 

THE DATE

I was coming out of the Railways Training Institute after collecting my hard earned cash when I received a call from Joy. She was like:

“Do you mind us meeting here in Kasarani” Me: Why” Joy: My mum is sick and she doesn’t want me to go far away from her……”

 I couldn’t disagree because this was that opportunity that I have been waiting for all that time. Joy’s home was in Kasarani and she only came to Buruburu after being invited by her cousin who stays there. And she wanted us to meet in Kasarani, a place that I barely knew well. To be specific she requested that we meet at Kasarani Sports view Hotel which got me by surprise. That place by its name looked very expensive especially for my first date. 

But wait, one thing, it so happened that this date was set up on that day of the week that I was receiving my salary. And so I was loaded, not with weapons but cash. Ha Ha Ha …!!!

Something that I was taught not by anyone but by experience is that, you don’t carry all your eggs in one basket. Same thing with cash, you don’t carry all the cash you have in your wallet especially when going for a date. You distribute it into other pockets too.

The one in the wallet was to be used to pay for the date. The one in the back left pocket served as emergency cash for transport. Then I also put some in the tiny front pocket of my jeans on the right side. That served as super – emergency cash… (Lol:-D), just in case I get mugged, I won’t be stranded because I lacked fare. One just needs to have planned in advance and ladies also like guys who have initiatives and plans and I was a candidate for that matter. (Free Advice)

And so I proceeded to the famous Kasarani Sport View Hotel which was not really illustrious with me. Apparently the hotel was like 1Km from the main road and the road that led there was dusty in a manner not qualified to be called a murram road .

“How on this planet was I supposed to walk all that way, seriously? Anyway Love or “Love” has a price to be paid for and sacrifices have to be made, right? (God had to sacrifice His only Son as the ultimate price for our sins to be forgiven (John 3:16). 

When I got at the gate, I had to behave like someone who knew where he was going. So I put on my confidence garment so as to easily pass through that gate that had some mean looking security officers. (I just don’t know why they all look that way except for the ones who guard estates and courts). 

When I entered that gate, on my left was a verandah that had seats and tables, for patrons, same with my right as I made the conclusion. Straight in front of me was the patron’s receiving area. I decided to proceed there as I also considered myself a patron too. 

The receiving wardens directed me to a seat and they served me with the menu. Goodness…!!! I felt like MVP (Most Valuable Patron) Aha!!!  Who has their first date at such a hotel? That was set to be the top stories once I go back home to tell my buddies.

As the man, when you go for a date you need to either have prior knowledge of where you’re going or arrive early. (Free Advice). And I did the latter because I had never visited the place before. So I quickly run through the menu to see how far my pocket will go. HEHEHE!!! First, the French fries were Kes 100, goodness!!! How now???  Just some fried potatoes and you add some watery tomato sauce. Secondly the 300ML soda was Kes 80. This is crazily insane. I did my calculations and saw that my pocket will part with almost Kes 500. Waaah…goodness!!! And not forgetting if she decides to ask for chicken, I’ll be doomed. I just kept my fingers crossed (Does that technique really help???). I sat there patiently waiting for my date. 

And there she was, majestically walking towards me as I had taken a seat that was conspicuously visible from the main gate.Nothing much had changed from my previous encounter with her. Still stunning she was. There she came. The lady who had denied me her phone number was here with me. I should consider myself charming.

As the kind gentleman I am, I stood to usher her to the table and even pulled the chair for her (This Part: Ladies would go like “Aaaaaawwwww,” …Lol) Yeah I am gentleman. 

And now this is where the date officially starts. Chatted, Chatted, Chatted, and Chatted only to be interrupted by the warden who went like “Excuse me Sir, have you ordered.” I actually forgot that I was in a hotel. Anyway I told the warden to give us some minutes. You can imagine what Joy told me.

“I have just had some lunch; I’ll just take a drink.” I guess I was the most infuriated man in the universe at that time. How on this planet do you come on date with your stomach full?  What was I supposed to do with you seriously? Goodness…!!! After all these preparations??? C’mon. 

By the way, just for the record, I never lost my domestic displeasure on her face. All these were just happening inside of me. I had to take all that. So she ordered what she wanted and I did order soda too. I can’t just stay there feasting on some chips yet my date is sitting there just sipping some colored water and sugar. Yeah, it is colored water (a mixture of weird ingredients. By the way have you heard that Coke soda is used a as pesticide in some parts of Asia? Yeah, that should scare you now and this lady too). How will even people think of me?? … I couldn’t do that to myself. So we kept on our conversation (getting to know each other) till we left the place to the bus stage.

The date was over. Then I did something that up to now I find it very immature. A week after the date, I decided to ask her to officially date me. In short, I was asking her to be in a relationship with me. Kind of blunt that was. How now??? 

First, you don’t ask someone who you barely know to be your heartbeat (girlfriend or boyfriend). I didn’t even know about her family, friends and even her past. Most importantly we had only met twice (Church & that Kasarani place). Secondly, I did that on phone. Goodness…!!! How do you propose on a phone conversation??

That one shows how scared and coward you’re. (Free Advice)

Right now I see everything that I did at that time and all I can say is that I was immature and raw.

Anyway we dated on for barely two years. And all this happened mostly on phone till she went to Nigeria for studies (As she said, I never did bid her bye). And that was just how it ended because even after she came back to Kenya, it wasn’t possible for it to continue due to “irreconcilable differences”

Right now, 4 years after that date, am getting into the dating world in a mature way with full knowledge of what I am engaging in. Promising to keep whatever i have till marriage.

Stay Blessed Y’all. :-) :-) :-)